What do you think the mothers of the future will be like? Picture this scenario: At a birthday party for a 14-year-old girl, her former boyfriend responds to the teasing of several girls to give a 12-year-old girl a kiss on the cheek. The birthday girl's mother is so immature that she takes offense at this, seeing it as the "betrayal" of her daughter. I know this will likely seem incredibly silly, but bear with me.

The mother takes her birthday girl aside and tells her to "handle her business." So the birthday girl attacks—not the boy, but the girl he kissed. The mother joins in, scratching, kicking and stomping the "offending" 12-year-old. Three other teen girls and the birthday girl's 19-year-old sister join in the assault, beating the 12-year-old into a coma, leaving her possibly brain-damaged for life.

You're likely thinking that I've dreamed up an absurd and impossible image of the mother of the future. In fact, it isn't made up, and it isn't about the future. This ugly scene actually happened in Baltimore not long ago.

What kind of mothers will the "tweens" (8- to 14-year-olds) in this story make a few years from now? What kind of mothers will today's Western culture produce?

Not mother material

Violence, real and imagined, is a part of the lives of many young girls today. Movies and video games such as Tomb Raider feature females in violent roles. Lara Croft, the main character of Tomb Raider, brawls and battles her way through her adventures.

She is pencil-thin, except for exaggerated curves in certain areas, and dresses in skin-tight outfits, conveying the idea that young women should flaunt their sexuality. Completing her wardrobe are two automatic pistols, one slung low on each hip.

Two Lara Croft movies (with no doubt more on the way) have been produced. She holds cult status with many young people, who can play several video games about her, surf countless Internet sites featuring chat rooms for fans and video clips, and play online Tomb Raider games. What kind of mothers will Lara Croft inspire?

Paris Hilton, Britney Spears and Christina Aguilera, although now in their 20s, continue to be role models for tween girls. Belly shirts and low-slung pants, often with underwear exposed, are common styles, seen even in dress-up situations.

Madonna, the maven of modern female entertainment, is in the process of bringing standards of decency to even greater lows. Her "Re-Invention" tour opened earlier this year, featuring "plenty of lesbian love," according to a news report. In the show she sings "Papa Don't Preach" in front of a chorus line of nearly nude, pregnant women.

Joe Levy of Rolling Stone tells us: "Madonna always has a message to put across. Some people get the message, others don't—but everyone gets a fair amount of value for their entertainment dollar" (Orla Healy, "Madonna's New Tour Is Most Shocking Yet," FoxNews.com, May 21).

Some message. Some messenger. What kind of mothers will tweens who copy the dress, mannerisms, language and message of Madonna make a few years from now?

Real life, real pain

In real life, young girls are coping with problems such as homes broken by divorce, Mom's new boyfriend, and drug and other alcohol abuse in their home environments. How is all this affecting young girls today?

U.S. Justice Department arrest and survey statistics of 25 or so years ago show that incidents of violence among young boys outnumbered those among young girls by a margin of 10 to 1. Today, violence is still more prevalent among boys, but only by a margin of 4 to 1. Clearly a disturbing trend is taking shape.

Violence between young U.S. girls is so common today that virtually all school authorities have to be conscious of it and trained in how to respond to it. Bill Bond heads a project on school safety for the National Association of Secondary School Principals. In April of this year he said, "I've been to 17 Association meetings this year and the topic has been addressed at every meeting" (Wiley Hall, "Violence Among Girls Increasing in U.S.," Associated Press report, April 25).

By the time today's young girls become mothers, they will bear many scars. You may be thinking of emotional and psychological scarring. To be sure, there will be an abundance of those types, but there will also be physical scars—and by their own hand.

Joelle Babula of The Arizona Republic tells of a rash of girls burning, cutting and bruising themselves in Phoenix-area high schools ("Self-Injury Among Teens on the Rise," April 26). Mesa Public Schools has such a high incidence of self-inflicted injuries that they include specialized training in dealing with it for all of their counselors.

These kids are cutting themselves with box cutters, glass and knives. In twisted logic, perhaps self-inflicted injury is a type of hurting they can control, in contrast to the emotional pain and stress put on them by others.

One of the pressures they are trying to cope with is the media's message that they must be sexy and attractive. If they aren't genetically predisposed to reflect the image of today's pop culture queens, they may try to make themselves ugly—to take themselves out of the running, so to speak.

This trend is so new that no national statistics are available yet. But there are indications of it all over the nation. At S.A.F.E., a self-inflicted injury treatment facility/program in Chicago, Karen Conterio has seen such incidents skyrocket from hundreds to thousands a month. If girls do not receive treatment, their self-inflictions can escalate to breaking bones and infecting wounds—even self-injecting with HIV (ibid.).

This physical scarring will only add to the mental scarring already troubling tomorrow's mothers.

Why young women expose themselves

Conservative radio commentator Dennis Prager wrote a two-part series in early 2004 on why young women are exposing themselves in the way they dress. Following is a summary of some of the reasons he offered.

Sameness between men and women. With every aspect of society promoting the equality of the sexes, young women are announcing, "Hey, I am female," in one of the few ways that they can.

Women used to be able to express their femininity by distinctively female dress. Today, there is less clothing that is uniquely female. Women wear pants and pant suits, even mannish suits right down to the necktie. The modern young woman's confused sense of "feminine" is clothing that uncovers her femaleness.

To attract men. Prager writes that women who expose themselves are sexually attractive to him as a male, but at the same time offend him as a man. He adds that his grandmother, who never went to school, knows more about men than the average female college graduate today. Women expose themselves to exert power over and get their way from men, seemingly ignorant of the sexual overtones of their methods.

"What you so often call cute or attractive," he writes to young women, "men see only as a sexual come-on." Wanting love, women seek to attract it by exposing themselves. But, Prager counsels, "The more skin men see, the more they think sex, not love. And that includes guys your age, your male teachers, your clergyman, your mailman, and the old man next door."

Some are making good choices

Not surprisingly, many teens are sexually active today. The Alan Guttmacher Institute published study results that show one half of all American youth will contract a sexually transmissible disease by age 25. Some of those STDs can cause infertility, which will deny some of today's tweens the blessing and privilege of giving birth altogether.

However, there is some good news: The percentage of teens who are sexually active is down from 54 percent in 1991 to 47 percent in 2003. But that's still nearly one half of all teens experiencing something for which their minds and spirits were designed to enjoy only in the context of marriage.

We hope that more and more teens will reject the tendency of their peers and the pressure of the world around to emphasize sexuality. There are signs of a healthy backlash against slut-slumming styles. Some teens reject the trend. They refer to the tweens caught up in piercing belly buttons, wearing belly shirts and off-the-hip pants as "prostitots"—a not-so-subtle declaration of their revulsion for these popular fashions.

The source of true beauty

One of the Bible's proverbs observes that a beautiful woman without good judgment is as attractive as a gold ring dangling from the nose of a pig (Proverbs 11:22)—not a pleasant depiction, but it gets the point across!

We sympathize with how truly hard it is for young women to know how to conduct themselves, how to dress and how to walk and talk today—especially with society glorifying crude and coarse women. But there are still some moms who are models of true beauty. We hope you have a mature eye and that you can spot this classiness.

One of the cartloads of so-called reality shows today is The Swan, in which physically unattractive women undergo a series of extensive cosmetic surgeries to remove this and augment that—conveying the message that beauty is on the outside. Such shows suggest the idea that if you can be attractive on the outside and expose it with just the right tease, you will have it made.

But will you? Far from it! You will have "made it" only when you are mature enough to realize that beauty is on the inside; what is outside is ultimately of little significance.

Another biblical proverb—this in the section about the true beauty of a woman, found in Proverbs 31:30-31—warns that the exterior charm and beauty of a woman fades ever so quickly. It adds that what one sees on the outside pales into insignificance in comparison with a woman who is beautiful inside.

To those of you reading this who are young teens: Are you honest? If so, you are beautiful! Are you morally clean? You are beautiful! Are you dressing in a feminine, as opposed to a sexually alluring, way? You are beautiful! Can you be what you want to be, regardless of what those around you say and do? Then you are a beauty indeed! And you have the potential to be a great mother! GN